Oct
29
7:00 PM19:00

Dips in Desire: When Only One of You Wants it

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Do you and your partner(s) always agree on the how, when, and where of sex? If so, GOOD FOR YOU! That’s really rare!

The rest of us negotiate all sorts of issues. Some people like sex in the morning while others feel the urge at night. Illness, injury, or depression can really put the breaks on. Major “stop buttons” for one partner may not even exist for the other, and at some point even the most sexually compatible couple will run into a rough patch.

What can we do?? It sucks to feel like your advances are constantly rejected. Is also sucks to feel like you have to avoid any activity that might lead to rejecting someone you love. Let’s talk about escaping this cycle of yuck and making our sexual relationships more resilient to natural dips in desire.

Panelists: Jamie Brazell, M.Ed, LMFT, CST, Lara Stevenson, LPC, and Susie Gronski, DPT, WCS, PRPC

Host: Heather Edwards, PT, Sexuality Counselor and Educator, V&V Founder

Location: UpCountry Brewing Full dinner menu available (and they’ve got some delicious food!), On site parking - FREE, dogs welcome, gender neutral bathrooms

Time: Doors open at 6:30, Event from 7:00-9:00

Who: This is open to all genders and orientations ages 18+.

Tickets: $10 in advance, $15 at the door (cash or card), If you can’t afford a ticket, send us a message and we’ll help you out! We don’t want to keep anyone way because of a tight budget. We do ask that you message us in advance, though!

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Sep
24
7:00 PM19:00

Sneeze Without Leaking and Have Better Sex!

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We're just going to go there. If you've ever had the pleasure (?) of sitting around with a group of pelvic physiotherapists, you might have noticed that there is NO topic that is off limits and you might have also noticed easily this group can connect things that one might not have thought to connect... like constipation and orgasm potential. This panel promises to drag you into the inner circle of the weird little world pelvic PTs get to inhabit. We'll talk a lot about sex... and leaking pee... and what those things have to do with one another. We'll even give you tips on how to have the best poo of your life (if you're lucky). And then you'll hopefully be WOWed and amazed by understanding how pee, poo, and sex really do go together when it comes to function. 

Not only will the topic be a fun one, but the panelists are pretty dang stellar as well. We've got Dr. Susie Gronski, author of Pelvic Pain: The Ultimate Cock Block, and local pelvic PT practitioner. We've got Susannah Haarmann, author of The Bladder Book and The Bowel Book and another local pelvic PT practitioner. And last but not least, we've got Melanie Sutton who is a senior PT in the pelvic floor program at Mission/Carepartners physical therapy! And just to nerd it up a little further, I'm going to be hosting (Heather Edwards) and I've been a pelvic PT for 16 years locally! Come on out and meet your team of professionals that help you deal with all the unmentionables. 

PANELISTS: Susie Gronski, PT, DPT, PRPC, WCS, Susannah Haarmann, PT, MPT, CLT, Melanie Sutton, PT, DPT, WCS, CAPP Certified

HOST: Heather Edwards, PT, Sex Counselor and Educator, V&V Founder

WHERE: UpCountry Brewing (full dinner menu and bar available)

WHEN: 7:00 (Doors open at 6:30)

WHO: This panel is open to all genders, ages, abilities, races, orientations, and wine/beer/soda preferences

COST: $10 in advance through the website. $15 at the door (cash or card). If you can't swing it, just send us a message and we'll hook you up. We get it. And we don't want you to miss out. 

 

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Aug
27
6:30 PM18:30

Let's Keep Screwing 'til we Die... Please?

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The image of sexuality that we have in the US right now is most usually between two young, beautiful, healthy, able-bodied, beautiful people. People tend to get a little grossed out when it's mentioned that their parents (or heaven forbid, GRANDparents) have sex. But at the same time, no one really wants to think about what age is too old for them to be having a healthy, active sex life. So, what's the answer? What age is too old? How sick is too sick? What level of sexual dysfunction is too significant? 

That's what we're going to talk about this month. Our panelists will talk to us about ways that we can make our sexuality more resilient as we go through life and undoubtedly face varied challenges to our intimate relationships. We'll dive into impacts of chronic illness and disability as well. We've got a urologist to help us break down the physical issues and what can be done. We've got Aleece who is always a wealth of knowledge on sexual medicine. And we've got a sex coach whose passion lies in helping LGBT folks in the aging population. It's going to be a great night! 

Panelists: Brooks Hooper, MD, Urologist, and Iva Veazy, Sexuality Coach, Aleece Fosnight, urology PA, AASECT Sexuality Counselor and Educator

Host: Heather Edwards, pelvic PT, Michigan Trained Sexuality Counselor and Educator, V&V Founder

LOCATION: UPCOUNTRY BREWING (West Asheville, 1042 Haywood Road) 

TICKETS AVAILABLE HERE

$10 ADVANCE/ $15 AT THE DOOR (cash or card). IF YOU CAN'T SWING THE $10, SEND US A MESSAGE. NO ONE WILL BE DENIED ACCESS TO A SEX POSITIVE SPACE FOR LACK OF FUNDS. :) 

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Aug
20
6:30 PM18:30

V&V EXTRA: When Sex is an "OUCH!" (and you don't want it to be)

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"... but everyone said it would hurt the first time... when does that stop?"

"His penis is just too big. I'm very small down there."

"I just try to get through it and not say anything because I don't want him to cheat on me"

"I just can't relax since the unwanted experience"

"Since I started taking T, my vagina is not as comfortable as it used to be"

Did you know that 3 out of 4 cis gender women have reported feeling unwanted pain with sex at some point in their lives (and we don't know the stats for trans/nonbinary folks with vaginas)? That's a lot. Enough to make people feel like it's normal if they bring it up in conversation with friends. But guess what! There are teams of professionals that deal with this. Want to meet them and hear what they have to say after years of working with people who have pain with sex? 

This is a special V&V (in addition to our regularly scheduled August event) and we are damn lucky to have Tracy Sher, MPT and CEO of Pelvic Guru and Sher Pelvic Health and Healing on our panel. Tracy in an international pelvic health instructor and pelvic physical therapist. She is brilliant and dynamic and will be an absolute joy to have on the panel. Additionally, we have Chelsea Wakefield, Ph.D, LSCW, AASECT Sex Therapist in town to joint this panel! For those of you who attended V&V back in 2015-2016, Chelsea was a regular on our panel until she moved to Little Rock to head their department for relationship counseling. She is the author of In Search of Aphrodite and Negotiating the Inner Peace Treaty and is full of truth-bombs to drop in any conversation I've ever had with her. They will be joined by our local sexual health superstar, Aleece Fosnight, urology PA-C, AASECT certified Sex Counselor and Educator. If you're looking for a conversation about painful sex that will bring the knowledge from all angles... this is where you want to be. 

Tickets for purchase here. Tickets are $15 and are available online or at the door (cash at the door, please!). If you attended Pelvic Guru Boot Camp in Greenville, SC Aug 17-19, your admission is FREE! Also, (as always) if you really want to be there but can't afford a ticket, just send V&V a message and we'll help you out.

This event will be at UpCountry Brewing in West Asheville. Full menu and bar provided throughout the entire event! 

Panelists: Tracy Sher, pelvic PT, CEO of Pelvic Guru (www.pelvicguru.com); Chelsea Wakefield, Ph.D, LCSW, AASECT Sex Therapist; Aleece Fosnight, urology PA-C, AASECT Sex Counselor and Educator (Extended bios HERE)

Host: Heather Edwards, pelvic PT, Sex Counselor and Educator, V&V Founder

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Jul
30
6:30 PM18:30

Tantra and Sacred Sexuality

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You've probably noticed that sex is a big deal. We'll dig into ancient wisdom and modern understanding of sexuality and the creative forces that push us to love, connect, and destroy for the purpose of rebirth.

Many of the most inspirational natural phenomena are courtship rituals. From bugs, to flowers, to birds, to trees, to humans. While sex might not actually make the world go round... it sure is the driving force for life. We've known this for a long time. These panelists have some serious creds to break this topic down. 

Panelists: Kara Catrelle, LCSW, Vedic Astrologer, Jungian-based Sex Therapist, Debbie Meitz, MD, "Tantra Doctor" and Taylor Johnson, Tantra Educator

Host: Jamie Brazell, MA, LMFT, AASECT certified Sex Therapist

Location: 6:30-9:30 at The Block off Biltmore

Tickets $10 in advance or $15 cash at the door. If you can't swing the $10, send us a message and we can hook you up. We get it... every has tough money stuff sometimes. Don't let it keep you from some great sex positive talk. 

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Jun
25
6:30 PM18:30

All Things Queer About Sex

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This was a comment reflecting on one of Tuesday's gems during the January "Saying Screw It to Gender Binary" event. 

While we certainly would need more than two hours to cover ALL things queer about sex, we're going to do our best to get through some pretty great highlights. This talk will be full of perspectives on sexuality, sex, and relationships that are much more common in queer world than straight world. If you're straight, you don't want to miss it because it's likely going to open your eyes to some perspectives that might be pretty far outside your box but you'll see they can be applied with some pretty awesome results. If you're queer, you might have that same experience, or you might have quite a few YAAASSS!!! moments in hearing pieces of your truth spoken out loud in a public forum. We'll do our best to cover topics such as:  coming out, dating, long term relationships, types of relationships (monogamy-polyamory), kink... all from a queer lens. Oh, and some of your favorite panelists will be back and you'll even get to see a new face or two up there as well! Don't miss it! 

Panelists: Tuesday Vee, Counselor, Tranzmission Support Programs Director; Taylor Walker, LCSW-A, LCAS-A; Bernie Newton, MS, LPC, CSAT, Michigan Trained Sex Therapist; Jenny Shealy, MSW, LCSW

Host: Heather Edwards, pelvic PT, Sexuality Counselor, Sexuality Educator, V&V Founder

Tickets: $10 in advance (purchase here) or $15 cash at the door. If you can't swing the $10... no problem. Send us a message prior to the event and we'll get you on the list. FB or email through the website are fine! 

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Jun
9
5:00 PM17:00

Keeping Your Bits Safe with Kinky Play

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This is something new we're trying. This V&V is going to be more of a workshop with some great advice for medical professionals or mental professionals to take away and use with their clients on how to advise when kinky behavior or BDSM practice might seem at odds with a pelvic health concern. (AASECT credits will be provided for anyone interested.) It's also going to be a great talk for anyone in the BDSM and kink scene who want to learn more about pelvic health concerns with various practices. There will be a time for anonymous Q&A as well so the questions can be as detailed as desired without anyone having to give away any personal details. 

Presenters:

Aleece Fosnight, PA-C, CSC, CSE

Aleece Fosnight has been working as a urology physician assistant for the past 5 years in Western North Carolina. She graduated from the University of Kentucky PA Program in 2011 and completed a postgraduate certificate at the University of Michigan in sexual health. Aleece provides comprehensive urologic care to all generations.  Her training includes pelvic floor dysfunction, biofeedback, pelvic organ prolapse, pelvic pain, low libido, interstitial cystitis, menopause, female sexual health, low testosterone, erectile dysfunction, and LGBTQ urology care.  Aleece and her supervising physician provide bilateral orchiectomies to MtF patients, as well as other trans urology health care. She is the current president for the Association of Physician Assistants in Obstetrics and Gynecology (APAOG) and very active in promoting sexual health awareness to her local community through group sessions and presentations. She has worked closely with the local college as an advocate for sexual assault awareness on college campuses and helped them develop a new protocol for sexual assault prevention and safety.

Heather Edwards, PT, Founder of Vino & Vulvas

Heather Edwards, PT, MPT has been a pelvic physical therapist for 14 years in western North Carolina. She holds a certificate in Sex Counseling and Education from University of, while in supervision for national certification. In 2015 she founded Vino & Vulvas, an inclusive, public, monthly event that connects sexual health providers with community members through educational panel discussions about sexuality, relationships, and pelvic health. She is on the advisory board for Pelvic Guru and has been a contributor since 2013. She teaches community classes such as “Field Guide to Your Crotch” for trans men or trans women, and "Talking to Your Doctor About Your Nonbinary Crotch.” Heather created the Transgender Pelvic Health Survey (currently in progress) and teamed up with Nova Southeastern University and the Pelvic Health Research Initiative for its implementation and data analysis. In 2016, she presented at the Southeastern Transgender Health Summit on the topic of pelvic PT considerations for the surgical trans patient. 

Tickets: $15 and available here. If you're in the kink/leather/BDSM community and you want to attend but can't afford the $15, please send us a message and we'll hook you up! 

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May
21
6:30 PM18:30

All About Vulvas

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If you have a vulva, love a vulva, or just find bodies fascinating... this talk is for you. We've got a sex therapist asking questions to medical professionals that work with vulvas from multiple perspectives. We'll be talking about the skin of the vulva and the lining of the vagina... we'll cover sexual function and tie the urinary system into it... we'll discuss the muscles that help make everything work. We'll discuss what "normal" is and what issues are problematic and how to get them corrected. All of the panelists (and the host) are local providers that are happy to be on your team or get you pointed in the right direction. 

So, come on out and get curious! 

Also, because the topic is VULVAS, that tends to translate to "women's health". This talk is going to be trans and nonbinary inclusive. We'll talk about different terms for talking to your medical provider when "vulva" doesn't feel true, but you still have an issue in that area. We'll also talk a bit about new-to-you vulvas. Everyone is welcome and we'll do our best to address vulvas in a way that in not ONLY for cis women. 

TICKETS AVAILABLE HERE

Panelists: Kiran Sigmon, MD, GYN, MAHEC Vulvar Pain Clinic;  Aleece Fosnight, urology PA-C, AASECT Sex Counselor and Educator, Heather Edwards, pelvic PT, Sex Counselor and Educator

Host: Jamie Brazell, M.Ed, LMFT, AASECT Sex Therapist

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Apr
30
6:30 PM18:30

The Why's and How's of Touching Yourself

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In 2017, the most requested topic was masturbation. We put on our event and had VaVaVooom come by and bring a bunch of samples and toys for show and tell. It was a blast. 

And we're doing it again... EXCEPT: This year we're talking about masturbation with all kinds of anatomy - not just vulvas. We'll bring a new angle to thoughts of self-pleasure and discuss it with a wider lens. Why does it come more naturally some than others? What do hormones have to do with it? When is it problematic? For whom should it be encouraged? Are there bad habits one can get into? Does it affect your ability to get off with a partner? So much to cover!

And... VaVaVooom will be there again with a sampling of toys for ALL GENDERS! They will be doing demonstrations in the bar 6:30-7:00 and 9:00-9:30 and I promise you, it will be a ton of fun. 

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Panelists: Jamie Brazell, M.Ed., LMFT, AASECT certified Sex Therapist;  Bernie Newton, LPC, Sex Therapist; Aleece Fosnight, PA-C urology, AASECT certified Sex Counselor and Educator

Host: Heather Edwards, pelvic PT, Sex Counselor and Educator

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Mar
26
6:30 PM18:30

Affairs: An Honest Conversation

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Betrayals, infidelity, affairs, cheating... ugh. Whether it's an emotional breach of trust or a big physical boundary crossing, we're going to talk about it from multiple angles... because there are always more than one side to each story. Let's take a step back from the big emotions felt with betrayal in a specific relationship and talk about what's going on beneath it all. We'll discuss the difference between affairs and consensual nonmonogamy, the expectations that are placed on long-term relationships, libido mismatches, and what sex has (or doesn't have) to do with it all. And best of all - we'll talk about how to move forward after an affair happens. 

Panelists: Kelley Johnson, Ph.D., Sex Educator; Eric Belsterling, LPC, CSAT; and Pia Arrendell, LMFT

Host: Jamie Brazell, M.Ed, LMFT, AASECT certified Sex Therapist

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Feb
26
7:00 PM19:00

Much to Know About the Big O

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Are you ready for an orgasm talk unlike any you've heard before? We're going to make sure you understand the basics of how bodies work when they're all hot and bothered. We'll talk about what's normal and what's not when it comes to pleasure and discuss how they might be different depending on one's body (ALL bodies). Other exciting orgasmic ponderings: Can we screw it all up by putting too much pressure on climax? Do they change as we age? What affects our ability to come? Is it true that ANYONE can be multi-orgasmic? What's the deal with the G-spot and female ejaculation? Does communication have anything to do with it? What exactly does a prostate do? Are there really different types of orgasms? Can everyone orgasm? And of course, we'll push it a little further and share tantric tips on orgasmic bliss. It's going to be a fun night that you won't want to miss! 

Panelists: Kara Catrelle, LCSW, Angela Wilkers, LMFT and Dr. Doris Gordon, PhD, ABPP, CST, AASECT certified Sex Therapist

Host: Heather Edwards, pelvic PT, V&V founder

Tickets available for purchase HERE. We offer free tickets to those who can't afford it. If you'd like to help us out and donate a ticket, you can do that from the ticket purchase page. 

If you can't afford the $10 for a ticket but would really like to come (no pun intended), please send us a message through the website or our FB page

 

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Jan
22
7:00 PM19:00

Saying 'Screw It' to Gender Binary

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In 2017 we covered "How to Be a Woman" and "How to Be a Man". Those titles, of course, were a load of crap because there is no one way to be anything. But even setting those topics up was going along with the binary gender code (which we knew, and were just playing with). But now... now we're going to hear the stories of those who opt out of that binary gender stuff. This talk will open your eyes and your mind to what you think of your own gender, but also to start seeing others differently when it comes to gender identity. 

Panelist: Tuesday Vee, MA, NCC and Stephen Wiseman, LCSW, and Catie Beaulieu, MA, MBA, LPC, CPT

Host: Heather Edwards, pelvic PT, Sexuality Counselor, Vino & Vulvas Founder

Location: The Block Off Biltmore, Asheville, NC (parking available in the municipal lot at the corner of Spruce & Marjorie Streets or at Aloft)

 

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Oct
30
7:00 PM19:00

I Don't Know How to Say This But...

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There are a lot of people out there that kind of suck at being about actually say what you need. Maybe it's hard to even figure out what it is that you need! Are you one of them? Do you tend to date these people or are you partnered with one? Maybe you've already had sex and maybe you haven't, but you still haven't actually TALKED about it. Do you come from really different backgrounds and it's hard to bridge the gap? How do you break open that conversation of "this works for me" or "that really turns me off". How do you introduce a kink to someone who might not be into that sort of thing? How to you talk to your kids about sex when you don't feel like you know all that much either? What if you've got some body image stuff that you really hate to talk about but it can make intimacy go all sorts of wrong if it doesn't get acknowledged? What is THAT THING that is so hard for you to say?

Lucky for you we, here at V&V, revel in talking about really awkward stuff. We would love to break it down with you and give you some tips on how to have that tricky conversation. 

If you're brave, bring a first date. We promise not to put you on the spot. 

Panelists: Kelley Johnson, PhD, Sex Educator, Taylor Walker, LCSW-A and LCAS-A, Bernie Newton, MSMFT, LPC, CSAT

Host: Heather Edwards, pelvic PT, Sex Counselor, Founder of V&V 

Location: The Block Off Biltmore

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Sep
25
7:00 PM19:00

Why Stop at One?

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Relationships take many varied forms, and they have throughout history. This idea of one monogamous relationship for 50+ years is a relatively new thing, yet it gets placed on a pedestal. Would you like to learn about the bigger picture of what relationships can look like? Join us for a talk that will cover consentual nonmonogamy, polyamory, open relationship, "monogamish" relationships, jealously, attachment, and all off that gritty stuff that makes us human. 

Panelists: Jamie Brazell, M.Ed., LMFT, CST, Taylor Johnson, and Kenya K. Stevens, polyamory specialist, coach, founder of JujuMama Love Academy

Host: Aleece Fosnight, PA-C, CSC, CSE

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Aug
28
7:00 PM19:00

How To Be a Man

This is going to be a fun panel. We're going to talk to trans and cis men with various gender expressions from masculine to femme and get the story about what they learned about masculinity growing up and how it's affected their gender identity as an adult. We'll dig into all that good nature vs. nurture stuff and talk about how presenting masculine or feminine changes some parts of the world for people. Prepare for some thought provoking discussion. This talk is for all genders to attend! 

Panelists: Papillon DeBoer, LPCA, Zeke Christopoulos, Founder of Tranzmission, and Drew Potter, Mankind Project

Host: Heather Edwards, PT

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Jul
31
7:00 PM19:00

How To Be a Woman

How does one learn how to be a woman? What does that even mean? Some of it's biological, right? Maybe a lot of that "how you were raised" stuff? What messages are we getting from all around us about what being a woman is all about?  What is just cultural? How do hormones effect it? 

We're doing to dig into this topic for a fun exchange of ideas. This panel will be made up of trans and cis women who have fantastic variations of their gender expression and different lived experiences. Come join us to challenge your thoughts on what it means to be a woman in 2017. 

Panelists: Jamie Brazell (local sex therapist and frequent panelist), Brynn Estelle, (local trans organizer), and Michele Fitzsimmons (FDNY fire captain)

Host: Heather Edwards, V&V founder, local pelvic PT

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Jun
5
7:00 PM19:00

Queer Anatomy and Kinky Medical Questions

 Aleece Fosnight, PA-C (urology), Sexuality Counselor and Educator and Heather Edwards, PT (pelvic)

Aleece Fosnight, PA-C (urology), Sexuality Counselor and Educator and Heather Edwards, PT (pelvic)

Sick of the heteronormative narrative? Tired of not knowing how to discuss certain sexual or genital topics with your doctors because you don't want to set yourself up for judgement? Are you a health care provider who feels stuck with asking the question, "Are you sexually active?" as a screen? Heather and Aleece are going to talk you through non-gendered ways of discussing genital anatomy and more effective ways of talking about sexual concerns. We’ll address kink issues as well. Whether you’re a patient or a provider, we’ll give you some ideas on how to make your sexual health discussion more inclusive and less awkward.

Panelists: Heather Edwards, Pelvic PT and Aleece Fosnight, PA-C (urology), CSC, CSE

Host: Rev. DiAnna Ritola

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Apr
24
7:00 PM19:00

Own Your Darkness with BDSM

We all have baggage that we have to manage in this journey of life. Some of it's fairly manageable with a little self help, some good conversations with friends, a good workout, or perhaps counseling sessions. Sometimes there's some baggage that needs a little more attention and might have a sexual nature to it. There might not be a lot of satisfying pathways for learning how to work through this stuff in a healthy, nondestructive manner. BDSM can, interestingly, offer a way of dealing with some complicated issues in a way that provides safe rules, boundaries, and control. DiAnna and Kara will be discussing how BDSM role play can be used to integrate the parts of us that we try to keep suppressed but can pop  out in ways that can be destructive. This will be a challenging and thought provoking discussion open to those that are complete BDSM novices or are experts.  

Panelist: Kara Catrelle, LCSW, Jungian-based Psychotherapist

Host: Rev. DiAnna Ritola

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Mar
27
7:00 PM19:00

The RIGHT Kind of Orgasms

The right kind of orgasm? Well, any kind of orgasm, of course! Come (pun intended) and listen to our experts orgasmically enlighten you! We'll talk about the different types and get nerdy about some anatomy stuff. We'll cover orgasms that you give yourself and those you have with a partner. Most importantly, you'll hopefully walk away with some tips on how to get the most out of your sexual pleasure. This talk will be geared toward XX anatomy, but we'll probably talk about some XY stuff as well and we will certainly be trans inclusive (and try to address anything that would fall into the GNC or intersex categories as they come up). It's going to be a fun night! 

Panelists: Jamie Brazell, LMFT, Sex Therapist;  Aleece Fosnight, PA - Urology, Sex Counselor and Educator, Kara Catrelle, LCSW, Jungian Psychotherapist

Host: Heather Edwards, Pelvic PT

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Feb
27
7:00 PM19:00

Awkward Sex Conversations

You're on a date, it's pretty early in the relationship, and you haven't yet discussed sex. Maybe you've already had sex and maybe you haven't, but you still haven't actually TALKED about it. How do you break open that conversation of "this works for me" or "that really turns me off". How do you introduce a kink to someone who might not be into that sort of thing? What if you've got some body image stuff that you really hate to talk about but it can make intimacy go all sorts of wrong if it doesn't get acknowledged? Are there mismatches that can be worked with and some that are deal breakers? How do you know if you're going to be compatible?

Lucky for you we, here at V&V, revel in talking about really awkward stuff. We would love to break it down with you and give you some tips on how to have that vulnerable conversation with someone you might not know very well.

If you're brave, bring a first date. We promise not to put you on the spot. 

Panelists: Jamie Brazell, M.Ed., LMFT, Sex Therapist and Rev. DiAnna Ritola

Host: Heather Edwards, Pelvic PT

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Dec
12
7:00 PM19:00

Dancing with Your Shadow to Save The F---ing World

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No small talk here. We're digging in because there's no time to lose. 

Creative fierceness comes from being whole. Shadows are the parts of our personalities that our conscious minds don’t claim. Integrating our dark with our light can knock down walls that limit our potential. The puritanical foundation of American culture puts a great deal of sexual junk in our shadows, and the national conversation has lately been full of mental gymnastics to explain away this obvious theme.

So let’s cut the crap and learn how to look at the fear, shame, sexism, racism, and anger that hold us back. In the process, we get to stop contributing to this big ol' messy cultural shadow and grow into our biggest, most badass selves.

"…you find your genius by looking in the mirror of your life. Your visible image shows your inner truth, so when you're estimating others, what you see is what you get. It therefore becomes critically important to see generously, or you will get only what you see; to see sharply, so that you discern the mix of traits rather than a generalized lump; and to see deeply into dark shadows, or else you will be deceived." - James Hillman. The Soul's Code: In Search of Character and Calling

Lighter, sassier Vino and Vulvas topics will be back soon… but right now we’ve got some business to tend to. 

Panelist: Kara Catrelle, LCSW, Jungian-based Psychotherapist

Host: Heather Edwards

 

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Nov
7
7:00 PM19:00

"That's Sexual Assault!",*Face Palm*, Repeat.

  LEFT: Kelley Johnson, PhD (Sex Positive Nation); RIGHT: Jamie Brazell, MA, LMFT (Out of The Woods Therapy)

 LEFT: Kelley Johnson, PhD (Sex Positive Nation); RIGHT: Jamie Brazell, MA, LMFT (Out of The Woods Therapy)

Election season has been full of surprises (each crappier than the previous), but one that most of us were not anticipating was getting an education on what emotional abuse, rape culture, and sexual assault look like when condoned and dismissed on the national stage. I know many of us have had to deal with difficult stuff as the national conversation swirls around topics that hit too close to home. Women are being degraded, and men are being assigned roles in that degradation that do not apply to the majority of them. Join us the night before the election to talk about these difficult topics and discussing the GOOD that can come from having it forced so viscerally into the public stage. We're moving forward from here! Let's join up and give each other some love and support. 

This event (like all of our events) is open to the public and is inclusive of all genders and sexual orientations. Teens are welcome to attend this event as well. 

Panelists: Kelley Johnson, PhD (Sex Positive Nation); Jamie Brazell, MA, LMFT (Out of The Woods Therapy); Papillon DeBoer, LPCA (Agency of Change and Our Voice) 

Host: Heather Edwards, PT (Vino & Vulvas Founder and Resilient Pelvic Healing)

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Oct
24
7:00 PM19:00

Things to Put In Your Vagina

 Aleece Fosnight, PA-C (left), Heather Edwards, pelvic PT (center), Dr. Grace Evins (right) 

Aleece Fosnight, PA-C (left), Heather Edwards, pelvic PT (center), Dr. Grace Evins (right) 

Hormones, lubricants, moisturizers… Do you know the difference? There are lots of different products for different functions. We'll talk about what does what and discuss sex toys that can be used to help improve the health of your vagina and pelvic floor as well. We'll also cover use of dilators, pessaries, and period products to help demystify all of these pelvic health options. 

Panelists: Grace Evins, MD (GYN), FACOG, Aleece Fosnight, PA (urology), Sexuality Counselor and Educator. 

Special Guest: Lisa Ziemer, Owner of VaVaVooom (and she's bringing toys and lube samples!!)

Host: Heather Edwards, Pelvic PT

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Sep
26
7:00 PM19:00

Finally! A Big Masturbation Talk

This has been the most requested V&V topic. Though we feel as if we discuss it in some regard nearly every month; this time we're just going all in. Masturbation! Jillin' off! Double clicking your mouse! Yes, an entire V&V to talk about as many different perspectives and likely technical suggestions as we can fit into 2 hours. Though we'll certainly focus on bodies with vulvas, there will be much more to this talk than what to do with what parts. We'll discuss masculine energies as well as feminine energies. There will be something for everyone regardless of what's between your legs and where you identify on the feminine/masculine spectrum. This is going to be epic. 
 

Panelists: Rev. DiAnna Ritola and Aleece Fosnight, PA, Sexuality Counselor and Educator

Host: Heather Edwards,  Pelvic PT

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Sep
10
5:00 PM17:00

WNC Sexual Health Network Event

Vino & Vulvas, an Asheville sexual health ‘edutainment’ event series, invites you to a happy hour for the creation of a more cohesive sexual health network in our professional community. We will launch a sexual health directory for practioners in the area. Together we’ve got a wealth of knowledge; let’s see what we can create.

Location: Battery Park Book Exchange and Champagne Bar

What to expect: 
Laid-back, relaxing event
NO games or ice breakers
Good wine (for purchase)
Light snacks
Casual dress

What to bring:
Business cards/brochures

This is a sex postive group. We are inclusive of all genders, orientations, ages and abilities. We look forward to seeing you there!

~ The V&V Crew: 
Heather Edwards, PT (pelvic), V&V Founder
Aleece Fosnight, PA-C (urology), Sex Counselor
Chelsea Wakefield, Ph.D., LCSW, Sex Therapist
Kelley Johnson, Ph.D., Sex Educator
Jamie Brazell, M.Ed, LMFT, Sex Therapist
Rev.DiAnna Ritola, Minister, Counselor
Grace Evins, MD (OB/GYN), FACOG
Debbie Meitz, MD (Women’s Health), Tantra Educator

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Aug
29
7:00 PM19:00

I Can't Feel Sexy When My Body Is…

Too fat? Too skinny? Weird skin thing going on? Differently abled? Don't feel at home in your own skin? Body image issues can span a wide range and have a big impact on our intimate relationships.

Do you ever tell yourself that you'll feel better in your body when you lose those 10 pounds? Or perhaps you'd be able to enjoy sex more if you weren't worried about how your belly looks when you're on top? Do you have a medical condition that affects how you feel about your body? 

Body image issues affect all genders and (as always) everyone is welcome to attend this event. 

Panelists: Jamie Brazell, MA, LMFT and Rev. DiAnna Ritola

Host: Heather Edwards, PT

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Aug
24
6:00 PM18:00

Field Guide For Your Crotch - For Trans Gals

Location: Firestorm Books on Haywood Road, Asheville, NC

Field Guide For Your Crotch (For Trans Gals)

The crotch… Not only do we pee, poo, and have sex with this area, but there are also all sorts of muscles, nerves, and bones that have to work together to keep it all working well. And that doesn’t even capture the ridiculous annoyance of crotch itch or weird rashes or bumps that come up!

Lucky for you, some of us devote our careers to answering crotch questions for the general public. Because of the gendered nature of these questions, we get that it can be uncomfortable to talk about your crotch when your anatomy doesn’t represent you. Likewise, if you have a new vagina, you might not feel fully “oriented” to it. Let us help! This discussion is for women and genderqueer folks who were assigned male at birth.

We’ll talk shop about issues such as:

·      Crotch itch and irritation

·      What you’re drinking and how it affects your bladder

·      Urinary leakage, urgency, and retention

·      Constipation, gas, and difficulty with bowel control

·      Pelvic pain and tightness

·      Sexual function issues

·      Hormone effects on your crotch and it’s function

You will come away from this workshop with knowledge on:

·      How to figure out if a crotch issue can be managed at home or if you need medical attention

·      How to use your pelvic muscles to help you out with pee, poo, and sex

·      How to manage what you’re drinking to avoid having to go pee at inconvenient times

·      How to poop better and not have to strain (which, believe it or not, can help your bladder function as well)

·      Weigh pros and cons of different hormone types

·      How to manage sex pain and have a better understanding of any “is this normal??” concerns

·      Understand health risks of various sex acts and kinks and how to minimize your risk

BONUS!!!

There will be planned time at the end for you all to ask any questions you want in an anonymous way. You can, of course, ask directly too, but discretion will be provided for your comfort.

EXTRA BONUS!!!

Tell us how we can do better!!

A trans pelvic health survey project will be kicking off soon. We’re looking for input on the survey! Help us to make sure we’re not missing any gaps that are of concern to you so that moving forward, as this (hopefully) gets published, it will be a source for your health care providers to have a better understanding of trans bodies and for researchers to ask better questions regarding trans pelvic health.

What’s the cost?

This is a FREE discussion. We certainly would suggest bringing a little money to get some snacks or books from Firestorm so that they can keep hosting great community events!

Presenters: 
Heather Edwards, PT (pelvic)
Aleece Fosnight, PA-C (urology)
Grace Evins, MD (OB/GYN), FACOG
 

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Aug
20
6:00 PM18:00

Field Guide For Your Crotch - For Trans Guys

Location: Firestorm Books on Haywood Road, Asheville, NC

TO CLARIFY THE INTENDED AUDIENCE: This workshop is for only trans men and genderqueer people who were assigned female at birth. I appreciate the interest from allies and cis-gender people wanting to learn more about this topic, but in order to keep a safe space, we ask for the audience to only be those who are specified. If you are a trans man and you would really like to bring your partner or close friend for support, that would be fine. 
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The crotch… Not only do we pee, poo, and have sex with it, but there are also all sorts of muscles, nerves, and bones that work together to keep it functioning well. That doesn’t even capture the ridiculous annoyance of crotch itch or weird rashes or bumps that come up!

Lucky for you, some of us devote our careers to answering crotch questions for the general public. Because of the gendered nature of these questions, we get that it can be uncomfortable to talk about your crotch when your anatomy doesn’t represent you. Or perhaps, now maybe it does but a little more orientation might be nice. This discussion is for men and genderqueer folks who were assigned female at birth.

We’ll talk shop about issues such as:

·      Crotch itch and irritation

·      What you’re drinking and how it affects your bladder

·      Urinary leakage, urgency, and retention

·      Constipation, gas, and difficulty with bowel control

·      Pelvic pain and tightness

·      Sexual function issues

·      Hormone effects on your crotch and it’s function

You will come away from this workshop with knowledge on:

·      How to figure out if a crotch issue can be managed at home or if you need medical attention

·      How to use your pelvic muscles to help you out with pee, poo, and sex

·      How to manage what you’re drinking to avoid having to go pee at inconvenient times

·      How to poop better and not have to strain (which, believe it or not, can help your bladder function as well)

·      Weigh pros and cons of different hormone types

·      How to manage sex pain and have a better understanding of any “is this normal??” concerns

·      Understand health risks of various sex acts and kinks and how to minimize your risk

BONUS!!!

There will be planned time at the end for you all to ask any questions you want in an anonymous way. You can, of course, ask directly too, but discretion will be provided for your comfort.

EXTRA BONUS!!!

Tell us how we can do better!!

A trans pelvic health survey project will be kicking off soon. We’re looking for input on the survey! Help us to make sure we’re not missing any gaps that are of concern to you so that moving forward, as this (hopefully) gets published, it will be a source for your health care providers to have a better understanding of trans bodies and for researchers to ask better questions regarding trans pelvic health.

What’s the cost?

This is a FREE discussion. We certainly would suggest bringing a little money to get some snacks or books from Firestorm so that they can keep hosting great community events!

Presenters: 
Heather Edwards, PT (pelvic)
Aleece Fosnight, PA-C (urology)
Grace Evins, MD (OB/GYN), FACOG
 

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Jul
18
7:00 PM19:00

Goodbye Sexual Stereotypes!!

After a while in a relationship, sex just isn't as important anymore, right? In a relationship, there should be a "top" and a "bottom" when it comes to sex. People over 60 don't have sex as often as younger people, do they? Women don't have as high as libidos as men, right? Men ALWAYS want sex! After women have babies, they just aren't interested in sex because they're dealing with the baby all day long, right? Women can't have "real sex" with other women because no one has a penis! If people are completely uninterested in sex, that's definitely a problem, isn't it? Vanilla is just boring. BDSM is dangerous! Teens are irresponsible and unable to make smart decisions about sexual partners. And the list goes on and on… 

Chelsea and Aleece are more than excited to dive into the topic and set the record straight! Hopefully they'll help set you free of some of the stereotypes you didn't realize you were holding yourself to as well. Looking forward to seeing you at this event! Let's get real and give societal norms a serious smack down! 

Panelists: Aleece Fosnight, PA-C and Chelsea Wakefield, Ph.D., LCSW

Host: Rev. DiAnna Ritola

 

 

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Jul
15
5:00 PM17:00

Sneeze Without Leaking And Have Better Sex!

This is going to be an exciting event! Vino & Vulvas hits the road! Join Heather Edwards, founder of Vino & Vulvas and pelvic physical on this insightful discussion with the amazing, Dee Hartmann, pelvic physical therapist and leader in the field of vulvar pain and pelvic health.   

We'll be discussing everything from why it's not normal to leak when you sneeze or exercise to the true magic of understanding the clitoris. It will be informal, laid back, and sure to give you a few laughs as you realize, "It's not just me?!?"

This event will be taking place at Cameo Vineyards in Greenup, IL. Click HERE for address, map and phone number. This event is FREE to the public, and is happening after hours at Cameo. There is a $10 minimum order for each guest (which is delightful excuse to make sure you grab a glass of their award winning wine). Food is available there as well if you'd like to make yourself a yummy cheese and cracker board while you're there! 

It would help us out to get an estimate of how many to expect if you would graciously RSVP on the Facebook event page or email vinoandvulvas@gmail.com if you know you'll be bringing a sizable group. Thanks!

This, and all Vino & Vulvas events are open to all genders, all sexual orientations, all ages, all abilities, and all wine preferences. Bring a friend, bring a date, or come on your own. It's going to be a great night!

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