Vino & Vulvas
Edgy. Inclusive. Informative.
What is Vino & Vulvas?
Vino & Vulvas is a monthly discussion in Asheville, NC that creates a space for education, curiosity, and pushing the conversation of sex past limits of traditional gender roles. We are a group of pelvic health specialists, sex therapists, sex educators, somatic sexologists, counselors, ministers, and LGBT activists who will be having panel discussions with time for questions on a plethora of topics centered around sexual wellbeing. This is a sex positive group and anyone (regardless of gender, age, race, religion, orientation, or ability) is invited to attend.
We provide an open space for talking about challenging topics that are often taboo. We meet in a public venue to get out of the shadows and create an open community where all of us (women, men, genderqueer, trans, gay, straight, bisexual, experienced, newbies, kinky, vanilla, young, mature etc.) can laugh and learn more about our sexual selves. We can start to bridge the gap between sexual healing practices, medical sexual health, and sex therapy. It's sure to be an exciting journey. Have a glass of wine, a cup of coffee, or a snack and enjoy some edgy, inclusive, and informative conversation. I hope you join us!
Do I need a ticket or a membership?
This event is FREE and open to the public. If you like what we're doing and you'd like to help out, donations are appreciated and it's how we fund this project. There is a $5 minimum order for the venue (and they have so much more than wine!).
Show up a little early to order at the bar, have a seat, listen, laugh, discuss, then grab another drink for the Q&A!
It sounds like it's just for women...
While we do certainly have themes that center on vulvas and feminine things, this group is open to everyone. We subscribe to the idea (so beautifully put by Allison Moon of "Girl Sex 101") that not all girls have vulvas and not all vulvas have girls. Wherever you fall in the spectrums of anatomy and gender, there's something for you here if you're game to explore with us. It's certainly a work in progress with learning how to talk in more inclusive and less heteronormative ways, but Wow! is it an exciting challenge!
Here's how it works:
- The first hour is a discussion between the host and the panelists. We ask that audience members not jump in with questions or comments during this part.
- After the discussion, we break and invite everyone to fill out a comment card. If everyone turns one in, the questions are more anonymous. Then for 30 minutes the panel reads and answers the questions.
- If you really want to voice a comment or question, you are free to do so… but see below. We don't want anyone to have a vulnerability hangover. No fun.
- During Q&A time, it is really important that we avoid cross talk. No one is coming to this event to be fixed by the rest of the group. So, if someone does happen so throw themselves out there in a vulnerable way, please allow the panelists to field the questions. Though I am sure that there are amazing comments that are bubbling under the surface in so many of our audience members, the truth is that there is only rapport developed with the panelists and they are the ones to whom the questions are addressed.
- If the panelists know some expert advice lies in the audience, we might pitch one of the questions to that person… but that's the decision of the panelists. Makes sense, right? No one wants random people jumping in and answering their questions.
- This venue is a public space, which means that random people and tourists walk through at any time (usually when we make some absurdly wacky comment about masturbation, it seems). Because of this, the way we keep the space safe is by not allowing comments from the audience, and having our Q&A time done as anonymously as possible.
- What Vino & Vulvas is NOT:
- A support group
- A wine tasting
- Group therapy
- A sacred circle
- If you would like any of these above listed things, there are loads of them in Asheville.